This post came at the perfect time for me. Last week I had dinner with two colleagues who left our office about a year ago. For the past several years we've had dinner together in February because we all have February birthdays. We had a lot to catch up on... dinner lasted almost 4 hours! And yet when I left I felt a little empty. They continue to meet up outside of work because of things they have in common, but I no longer feel as connected. I was being hard on myself about it and this post gives me some space to realize it's o.k. that we don't have as much in common now that we don't share a workplace. Thank you!
I'm so glad that this post found you at just the right time. Thank you for sharing your experience. I bet that there are a lot of people who can relate.
I love these studies! They bring so much comfort. Proximity and convenience is huge. There isn't always a real reason. Just circumstances. Telling ourselves the worst possibilities about things we don't know to be true is a waste. Great read!!
I’m mourning the end of a work friendship, we managed to last for 15 years after my leaving, but despite being quite similar people we didn’t have enough shared non-work experiences to keep the glue from failing. Her venting about work is all we really have now and it’s not enough sadly.
This post came at the perfect time for me. Last week I had dinner with two colleagues who left our office about a year ago. For the past several years we've had dinner together in February because we all have February birthdays. We had a lot to catch up on... dinner lasted almost 4 hours! And yet when I left I felt a little empty. They continue to meet up outside of work because of things they have in common, but I no longer feel as connected. I was being hard on myself about it and this post gives me some space to realize it's o.k. that we don't have as much in common now that we don't share a workplace. Thank you!
I'm so glad that this post found you at just the right time. Thank you for sharing your experience. I bet that there are a lot of people who can relate.
I love these studies! They bring so much comfort. Proximity and convenience is huge. There isn't always a real reason. Just circumstances. Telling ourselves the worst possibilities about things we don't know to be true is a waste. Great read!!
Thank you! Yeah, they are quite compelling studies. If only I would have thought of something that interesting for my dissertation. 😂
I’m mourning the end of a work friendship, we managed to last for 15 years after my leaving, but despite being quite similar people we didn’t have enough shared non-work experiences to keep the glue from failing. Her venting about work is all we really have now and it’s not enough sadly.
Wow...15 years. I'm so sorry. It's hard to see good relationships end.
Thanks, it’s sad but also it feels weird trying to prolong it beyond its life expectancy somehow?
yeah, I've totally been there. Life expectancy is a good term for it.